As I write this blog post in April, this is a time for students where you will have been applying to sixth forms, universities, and various schemes and programmes; especially if you are like me, a Law student, trying to pursue a legal career. This means that this is a time of either being accepted or rejected, no in between. You either got that offer from your chosen sixth form or university or you didn’t. You either got that vacation scheme, or you didn’t. During such a time period, when you do find yourself receiving multiple rejections, it really can lead you to question all your plans and all your goals. You may ask yourself questions like “why is everything I’m trying to do not working out?” And to others, it may look small. “Its only a scheme, its only a university offer, why are you so down about it? There’s so much more life has to offer you”. But the truth is that such setbacks really do lead you to question so much about your life and subsequently may lead you to question God’s plan for your life, also.
When you are receiving rejection after rejection, it can be so hard to believe that God is always on your side and always working things out in your favour. The Bible says that we can do all things through Christ and that everything we pray for, we shall receive, as long as we have faith… right? So where did my faith get me when I believed God would do for me, everything He decided NOT to do for me… right? Wrong. We are wrong and having such a mind-set is so detrimental to our faith in God and our relationships with Him.
What we need to understand is that God did not say He will do everything that we want, God said He would do what we need and what is best for us. What we need to understand is that God’s plan for us will always be more perfect and more beneficial to us than everything we’ve ever wanted for ourselves and planned for ourselves. What we need to realise is that when we are rejected from something, God has not failed us; instead He is redirecting us! He is telling you: “My child, this is not my plan for you” or maybe even “My child, it is not time for you to receive this”. We, as humans, tend to heavily associate achieving a specific goal with our self worth. For example: I will know God loves me and finally feel good enough ‘If I get that university place’; ‘if I get that grade’; ‘if I get into that sixth form’; ‘if I get that vacation scheme or training contract’. This is all wrong! Such examples are why I strongly believe God causes us to go through multiple rejections sometimes, of various types, as He forces you to confront your insecurities, acknowledge your misplaced self worth, and come back to Him. I personally, would rather go through every single rejection until I have acknowledged that my self worth is placed in the false systems of success that society has created, and not in the word of the Lord. I would rather continue to be rejected in every way until I am forced to place my total worth, happiness and contentment in God alone.
When God causes us to be rejected, He may also be asking us: ‘My child, why don’t you trust my plan for you?’ The book of Romans talks of the extent of God’s wisdom. Romans 11: 33-35 (NLT) says: ‘Oh, how great are God’s riches and wisdom and knowledge! How impossible it is for us to understand his decisions and his ways! 34For who can know the LORD’s thoughts? Who knows enough to give him advice? 35And who has given him so much that He needs to pay it back?’
To add to this, Romans 9: 20 (NIV) states ‘But who are you, a human being, to talk back to God? “Shall what is formed say to the one who formed it, ‘Why did you make me like this?'”’ Who do we even think we are to question God sometimes? As much as we are in communication with God and free in what we ask him and talk to Him about, we need to realise who we really are in comparison to God. We are merely humans, who will never understand God’s ways or plans, but have been instructed to trust him. That is all.
So where does this problem stem from? The fact that we don’t understand the love God has for us. This is the reason why I chose to write this blog post at Easter, a time where we are thanking God for giving up His one and only son for us, so that we may be forgiven; so that we may be able to live in accordance with our Lord; so that we may be able to experience and directly understand God’s love for us. I am beyond grateful for God’s love for us and words will never be able to explain how awesome and perfect God is. If I had not truly come to discover more and more each day how much God loves me, I would still be the past me that doubted every single thing about myself. The ‘me’ that needed people’s approval, encouragement and praise to feel okay, and I say okay because even that was never enough for me. I would still be the girl that constantly felt like something was missing, like I would never be good enough, or never do enough in this life. Overall, I was lost. But now, I know my worth more in God, I know who God says I am and the worth He placed over me when He made me. Even though I am still on my journey, sometimes not even seeing when I am allowing people to treat me less than I’m worth, I know God loves me, so I trust Him and accept that when I am being rejected, I am really being redirected. I KNOW that when I am knocking on a door that won’t open, God has locked it for a reason, as God loves me enough to keep from me, what will destroy me.
So I thank you Lord and give you all the glory for every rejection, every pain, every disappointment, as I know you did it all out of love for me. I thank you for making sure my plans don’t always work, so that I am reminded to depend on you and maintain self worth that is rooted in you alone. I thank you for sending your one and only Son to die for us, so that we may live a new life in you, free of the punishment of sin and its destination of death; free from being cut off from contact with you; free from the lies of the devil. Thank you Lord! I give you all the glory, as even being able to write this blog post today is an honour as you didn’t have to see me through to this day, you didn’t have to heal me, rebuild me and change me, but you did! Everyone, use this time to truly appreciate the little things in life, dwell in God’s love for you and tell Him that you’re truly grateful that He redirected you away from what was not part of his plan for you! It all had to happen! So thank Him everyone! God really does deeply love each and every one of us completely.
‘3 He was despised and rejected—
a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief.
We turned our backs on him and looked the other way.
He was despised, and we did not care.
4 Yet it was our weaknesses he carried;
it was our sorrows that weighed him down.
And we thought his troubles were a punishment from God,
a punishment for his own sins!
5 But he was pierced for our rebellion,
crushed for our sins.
He was beaten so we could be whole.
He was whipped so we could be healed.
6 All of us, like sheep, have strayed away.
We have left God’s paths to follow our own.
Yet the Lord laid on him
the sins of us all.’ Isaiah 53: 3-6 (NLT)
‘Christ suffered for our sins once for all time. He never sinned, but he died for sinners to bring you safely home to God. He suffered physical death, but he was raised to life in the Spirit.’ 1 Peter 3: 18 (NLT)
‘“For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.’ John 3: 16 (NLT)